F E M I N I S T
The word glittered in a gigantic storey high font on the VMA stage. Before it stood Beyonce; sexy and confident. The very embodiment of femininity proclaimed to be a proud feminist too.
She sang ‘Flawless’ with the word blazing behind her, 14 million viewers sat watching.
The word blacked out, but its vision remained imprinted. She owned the word on stage that night.
Beyonce’s performance did more than just entertain, it made girls and women across the globe think. She defined feminist using Nigerian author Ngozi Adichie’s words: “someone who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes”.
No doubts, no ambiguity.
This performance is culturally significant. When the world’s third most popular artist goes on stage and says something, a message is delivered. Beyonce at least told the world what feminism really is. She sold the idea to the ones who need it the most.
Yes, the females.
People across the globe have distorted the meaning of the word feminism. It has alarmingly become a symbol for women hating men. A quick perusal of memes, blogs and various sites shows misinterpretation by many because of misunderstanding.
Many women seem to recoil from the thought of being labelled a feminist. Men seem to associate a lack of femininity with a feminist.
The train of thought that a woman does not need a man is not what governs this social movement. A quick Google search on “I am not a feminist” shows a million results in 20 seconds and this is without having to feel lucky. The reasons range from “But I love men,” to “because of the Bible.”
Feminism has, in recent times, been associated to angry, discontent and uncouth women who carelessly fling this word around to get what they want. They want to be treated fairly and thus sneer at the very thought of chivalry. Feminists shall pay their share of the bill and don’t need men to open doors for them. Feminists do not need men. Period.
This is not so.
Do you believe in allowing women to be what they want to be? Do you believe in paying men and women equally for the same job? Do you believe in letting women go out at night? Do you believe in equality of all? Well, congratulations, you are a feminist.
A girl is taught how to behave like a lady. She is taught manners, she is allowed to study and excel but her ambition is snipped when it overshadows her duties as a wife or as a mother.
Things are changing. Society has certainly become more accepting. We do find men who stay at home and take care of the child. These are cases where feminism has won. We need more.
In a world where we still rape our women, kill our daughters in the womb and report heinous crimes against women, we need feminism. For every girl who is told to quit her job for the sake of her marriage, for each woman who is told to keep her opinion to herself, for each female who is constantly judged by society for the choices she makes; we need feminism.
Let women be;let them choose, let them decide.
Certain sections have now started calling themselves ‘humanitarian’. Call it what you may, the idea of equality is fundamental to this social movement. Equality of both the sexes without distorting it with woman-centric, male degenerating agenda is what this movement is about.
It shall take many Beyonce- like performances and education for true feminism to be achieved, but each step counts.
We do need men.
A feminist shall add only this to that statement, “We need women just as much”.