When did love become dishonorable?
It seems that proving we are a society which is backward in its thinking and brutal in its reactions has become our mission. Apparently, misplaced and misguided upkeepment of honor is more valuable than human lives. India has become the beacon for patriarchy and societal abuse in the twenty-first century. It is sad to know that progress is being made in a way that reeks of a lack of education, balance and most importantly, humanity.What does one make of a society where in the murder of one’s kin is tolerated but their falling in love is not? Is being sentenced for life an accolade to be boasted about? Does it bring enough laurels to the family name?
Utter lack of modernization is deeply entrenched in parts of our culture. A boy-girl, man-woman showing the minutest display of affection in public is severely frowned upon in a country whose ancient architecture shows human loving. It is sad to know that the right to choose one’s partner is available to only a privileged few. Members of the Khap Panchayats have their own set of rules which they believe is the law. Death sentences for them are routine affairs. Fall in love, fall prey to death. Court rulings are met with extreme resistance by these people. Through political clout and wielding the power of money, these goons remain unscathed.
In the most recent instance of honor killing, the girl’s father publicly quoted that he would do it again. It referring to lynching and burning his own daughter. No wonder the sex ratio in these states is irreparably skewed. Not only fathers, mothers too plot and plan against their own kin should the child be foolish enough to offend her wishes in the matrimony department. A girl is either killed in the womb due to lack of love or is murdered for falling in love. How do these people live with their conscience intact? Maybe they have none.
Reading about such news on a weekly if not daily basis sickens me as an Indian. Educated, humane people do try to help lovers who elope for fear of their lives; how much can they do? People are terrified, judges and lawyers are threatened while society is forced to remain a shocked spectator. Members of these Panchayats have offered justification for their ruthlessness on national television.In their twisted minds to love against the family’s wishes deserves death. Murder prevents family shame. While their views and actions disgust many, an equally large strata of the society agrees with them. It is this support that emboldens them; which gives them the courage to commit these heinous acts.
It is sad to know that a nation that welcomes everyone with love has its heart devoid of it.
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